tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post7618328853646565374..comments2023-04-02T03:29:41.607-07:00Comments on Raising 3 babes in the 3rd world: Advice for a Mommy with a strong willed childPaul and DeeDeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11379859517975476731noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-60758144131525241092010-04-17T08:17:35.682-07:002010-04-17T08:17:35.682-07:00My 3 year old is a firecracker and I just bought T...My 3 year old is a firecracker and I just bought The Strong Willed Child. I have no great advice to give as I am in the same boat!Larahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13404826828632906792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-64747501153435380022010-03-28T19:39:39.184-07:002010-03-28T19:39:39.184-07:00Another fabulous book is "Parenting Your Inte...Another fabulous book is "Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child". I think it's a little more in-depth than "The Connected Child", but that is an excellent book too._https://www.blogger.com/profile/16045401564948651914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-21398650283759206632010-03-25T11:56:45.421-07:002010-03-25T11:56:45.421-07:00Each of us has a selfish heart. A strong willed ch...Each of us has a selfish heart. A strong willed child is no different yet needs persistent molding for it to be used for good. I would say if you are going to battle you better win. One time of caving creates a hunger in them for control and pushing the limits. Be firm, be consistent, all the time. By giving in to get the result you wanted you did not train her to be obedient or loving you Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-19200015186748592682010-03-21T11:02:08.566-07:002010-03-21T11:02:08.566-07:00Completely agree w/ Annie's comment. Strong w...Completely agree w/ Annie's comment. Strong willed or not I would strongly encourage you to read "The Connected Child"! Think you will be really glad you took the time to do it! All kids are obviously so different, but I quit taking advice from all my friends long ago and started trying to figure out how to connect w/ each of mine right where they were.... the need for "kristinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-43492219893032989992010-03-20T18:07:18.101-07:002010-03-20T18:07:18.101-07:00I love what Diane said bc that's how my wonder...I love what Diane said bc that's how my wonderful step-dad put it to my mom when they were dating. He told her to be thankful bc I would always stand up for myself and no one would ever talk me into anything. Haha! Did I have some rough patches? Yes. Did I make mistakes in life? Well of course! But overall, I am not easily swayed and i've always gone after what I wanted out of life. My Alliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02450583986075166250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-32106699282941262682010-03-20T17:20:30.812-07:002010-03-20T17:20:30.812-07:00I agree with Jody. It sounds like she is testing y...I agree with Jody. It sounds like she is testing you. Hannah will do that at times too and then all of a sudden she'll snap out of it knowing that I am not going to back down. I really like the strong willed child!Tisha Alexanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04764004265353388587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-9219030805931315832010-03-20T10:17:16.246-07:002010-03-20T10:17:16.246-07:00You need to read "The Connected Child," ...You need to read "The Connected Child," by Karen Purvis. Because of Olivia's background what worked for Jackson most likely won't work for her, so Dr. Purvis's book has intervention strategies for children from hard places.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13327473968865143585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-45205199666444424812010-03-19T15:37:27.799-07:002010-03-19T15:37:27.799-07:00I certainly can't pretend to have all the answ...I certainly can't pretend to have all the answers, but I do/did have a strong willed child, so I know what you are going through. I remember sitting on the stairs (her time out place)for hours waiting for her to apologize - I was crying, she was crying......awful. I will say this tho - consistency paid off - It took a while, but she came around and has blossomed into a delightful girl (10the Garrisonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15837625948630978300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-33052164892220895862010-03-19T06:11:28.133-07:002010-03-19T06:11:28.133-07:00i swear, some days with little ones i feel like AL...i swear, some days with little ones i feel like ALL I DO is the same discipline rounds OVER AND OVER-it is so frustrating, no??? but, then again, i also look at my own heart and feel like sometimes I would rather stare at the wall for 3 hours tham say sorry, too, haha!! it is HARD raising super strong willed kiddos (I know it as I have 2 myself-wow, they are awesome but EXHAUSTING!) but it is jodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03951038177543356675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-38755415922230032602010-03-17T12:09:50.282-07:002010-03-17T12:09:50.282-07:00ok, so she reminds me of my VERY smart child #3......ok, so she reminds me of my VERY smart child #3...My first gut is that she is getting WAY TOO much attention over the "refusing to say" things stuff...then the "negative" effects like taking stuff away is now outwaying the postive which still leaves her getting all the attention..which "bad" attention is better than 'No' attention (which i know she was Kristi Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14639293095200720758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-27148783302501958542010-03-17T11:27:28.030-07:002010-03-17T11:27:28.030-07:00I don't know ...but I think that book if we co...I don't know ...but I think that book if we could get it on tape would be great!!! We have one that is exactly like that- a little older. She has a will like I have never seen!!! It drives me batty!!! I love her of course, but there are times- many many many times when I question all of my parenting skills because they don't seem to work with her- at all. My mom looks on the bright "Are These Kids All Yours?"https://www.blogger.com/profile/17946903135252874458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-37833497409030745652010-03-17T11:13:51.410-07:002010-03-17T11:13:51.410-07:00Wow DeeDee. Sounds pretty intense. I bet it will...Wow DeeDee. Sounds pretty intense. I bet it will continue to be up and down this way with some days about doing you in and others being easy. I think you know what you are doing. The most important thing is to stick to what you say. If you start giving in, the bad behavior will grow. I think you know this - it is just not fun to implement on a day to day basis!! <br />So excited about all Karinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13079689422524380782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9141018968586799503.post-50758706639687924772010-03-17T09:08:16.871-07:002010-03-17T09:08:16.871-07:00Just happened upon your blog this morning from a f...Just happened upon your blog this morning from a friend's.<br />Sounds like you are doing EVERYTHING right! My first born daughter was exactly the same way...spoke early and well, knew what she wanted, and tried to run the house :) Very trying days BUT there are wonderful outcomes with a child who is strong-willed. The teenage years were actually a breeze with this child because she did Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14960009076541165323noreply@blogger.com